I…………………………. Wow. I’m not even sure where to begin with this ask, but ok two things to start with.
One: She gets her memory wiped every time the guy turns into a key, so it’s not like she remembers having sex with the other guys.
Two: You’re calling her a whore because she has sex with a couple of different guys? Guys who are actually her closest friends from childhood? Umm, wow. Where’s the judgment for the guys for having sex with her so quickly even while knowing that she’s got amnesia? None? That’s a rather harsh double standard, isn’t it?
What you are doing is called slut-shaming.
Slut-shaming, also known as slut-bashing, is the idea of shaming and/or attacking a woman or a girl for being sexual, having one or more sexual partners, acknowledging sexual feelings, and/or acting on sexual feelings. Furthermore, it’s “about the implication that if a woman has sex that traditional society disapproves of, she should feel guilty and inferior” (Alon Levy, Slut Shaming). It is damaging not only to the girls and women targeted, but to women in general an society as a whole.
The reason why I like Oz to Himitsu no Ai is because it has interesting characters and a very deep story with multiple layers to it. I want to see where this story goes and I want to know what happened to all of them before they came to Oz. (I haven’t listened to Tenma or Ail’s CDs yet because of school so give me some time) The writing has been very carefully done so that you can really see each guy’s development and his struggle with trying to be a good person while protecting himself/his heart from further pain.
The fact that the heroine has sex with all of the guys is something that doesn’t bother me at all. I don’t think it’s something I’ve even thought about beyond acknowledging that it happens. "Women’s sex lives and sexuality are matters of their own choice, and nobody else’s business." Even if she was fully in charge of her decisions (aka didn’t have amnesia) she would not be a “whore” for having sex with them. A whore is someone who gets paid for having sex and unless you count mental scarring and pain as payment, I don’t think the heroine’s getting paid. Therefore she is, quite literally, not a whore.
Does a widow who remarries after her husband’s death become a whore for having sex with another? What about someone who breaks up with their significant other and falls in love with someone else? The heroine truly loves each guy when she has sex (well it’s arguable whether she really does or not, in the first place) with them. Where’s the harm in that? Who she has sex with is her business and does not affect the rest of us in the slightest. It’s a freaking drama CD.
If you immediately label a woman—any woman—a whore or a slut for having sex with more than one person, you are being misogynistic and close-minded. You are contributing to rape culture and the double standards that pervade our society.
If you are judging Oz to Himitsu no Ai poorly purely on the basis that the heroine has sexual freedom, you are being misogynistic and close-minded. (especially in light of what happened to the heroine in the past at the orphanage, her sexual freedom in the present is something that is particularly important)
If you are judging me because I “like series like Oz to Himitsu no Ai”, please get out because I feel no shame and have no need for your judgment. Because you are misogynistic and close-minded.